Why accept?

BUT WHY MUST WE ACCEPT OUR FLAWS?

I've been thinking a lot lately and I realize how important it is not to accept yourself completely.

Complacence hinders growth, I've heard people ramble on and on about how "It is what it is", "This is me, take it or leave it", "I am not capable of change." 

I am guilty of those one liners too, and it took me a long time to realize how far from the truth that is. These are things we tell ourselves simply because we do not want to change or believe we can't change, or worse, are living in a little bubble that makes us believe that people love us for the worst qualities we possess. It could be our defense mechanism that saves us from even attempting to be different from what we've been our whole lives.

The fact of the matter is, there are few things that are more hindering that accepting yourself completely. I am not sitting here telling you to change yourself for other people, or become what others what you to be, What I believe is change yourself for yourself. Be a new you for you. Be yourself by being more you. Be who you are by being better. Change is not a bad thing if it makes you feel better. Change is not easy to bring about.. the closer to home the subject the harder it becomes. But nobody said life needed to be easy. Sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone to explore more and see if you like it better that way. Even if it's something as simple as getting a new hair style..or a new hair color, or even trying a new lip color, which you would never even contemplate. I can't even put in words how much of a difference something so small and seemingly shallow can bring about in one's personality. This is coming from personal experience, a changed look can bring a change in your confidence, how you deal with life, with people, with yourself, changing your whole thinking, the way you see yourself, the way you see other people, the way you feel, the way you are, the way you think which obviously impacts every thing that comes your way. YOUR WHOLE LIFE. 

Every time someone tells me "I've been wanting to do this forever but I'm scared", I tell them to go for it. It might open up a whole new world. Thinking about starting a blog? go for it. Want to color your hair an obnoxious purple, go for it. Want to get a tattoo? Go for it. Want to go audition for X Factor? Go for it. Want to go do something crazy and silly and bizarre? Go for it. And yes this is kind of like a lecture to myself too because I am guilty of beating myself up over these things as well, and it's not about taking a huge leap and waking up tomorrow not recognizing your own reflection, this is about taking baby steps towards the new you that you might even get to love more than you thought. Cheers to exploring. 

Be your own kind of COOL

If getting even feels more like work than it does pleasure, just accept the fact that you are a nice, sweet, kind, caring person. I tried to change that about myself...I tried to be conniving, evil, manipulative because I started thinking those qualities were desirable...and if I dare say "Cool" but if being sweet, caring and kind makes me uncool...that's the risk I'm willing to take..and I'm here to make those qualities cool again. Being yourself is cool, being generous is cool, being nice to people you don't need to be nice to is cool, being accepting of flaws in others is cool, wishing people well is cool, trying to change for the better is cool, seeing good in everybody irrespective of how much of an effort it may be is cool, going out of your comfort zone is cool, being a rebel is cool, being quirky is cool, being conventional is cool too, being ordinary in your own extraordinary way is cool, being who you are when it is easier to be like everybody else is cool..

I choose to be unapologetic-ally "cool", do you?