Recently heard about this taxi driver, who came from an
affluent business family. He spent 20 years without talking to his family over
a silly argument, struggled doing odd jobs for two decades because his ego was
simply larger than life. Finally when good sense prevailed, he decided to
locate his long lost family only to find out that the final memory he shared
with his father was the fight. His mother still couldn’t believe that her son
had returned. His brothers were more than happy to welcome him back into the family
and the family business. Was the struggle, the countless years driving cabs,
the days he spent living in a car easier than simply apologizing? I know sorry
is the hardest word to say..but would the family even care about the sorry? Wouldn’t
it be more than enough that the son has come back! Obviously wiser, obviously
resenting, obviously trying to look beyond his ego? Yes, I know of certain people who would act
like you don’t exist rather than accepting your apology, simply because they
couldn’t care less! Simply because it is the easier way out. They make me
angry, also they make me feel bad for them in a weird way. A person who cannot
forgive, or even get over something that someone did at a young, restless age,
certainly has issues.
How can sophisticated adults get so wrapped up in themselves
that they refuse to see anything other than their ego. People go for years without caring about
family members, friends, over insignificant things. Over misunderstandings. In
some cases, over similar personalities. What happens when two people with
humungous egos clash? STORM..THUNDER!! it’s also sad that the 2 people fail to
spot the similarity in their personalities..the reason for their clash. They
see the wrong in the other, but refuse to see the wrong in themselves.
I know people can’t always relate with me when I say I feel
sorry for Vivek Oberoi, yes he made a mistake. He acted first, thought about it
later. What people fail to realize is that he was 24 years old! He was young
and stupid. Soon after he realized his fault, he publicly apologized to Salman
Khan several times. He made a mistake but did he really deserve to pay the
price of his career over it? A fan of Salman Khan, but I am also mature enough,
and human enough to see Vivek Oberoi’s perspective. If a girl who is fondly
refered to as “Dumby”, “donkey”, “blondey” can see that? Why can’t the so
called fair intellectuals, disciplined adults see that. Why are things that can
be so simple, get so complicated? How can something that should easily have been
solved by a “sorry” get to a point where it stops making sense? Where it
becomes frustratingly ridiculous? A point where nobody even remembers what the
problem was? A point where it becomes difficult for both parties to go back.
